Know Your Past and Change Your Future

Once at a social gathering I met a woman who looked as if she was about to collapse under the weight she was bearing on her shoulders. She did not know why, but this invisible weight was making her life increasingly difficult. I told her that I could help, if she wanted.

We walked away from the crowded veranda into the garden. There, we revisited her past using the NLP Time Line process and we soon discovered her problem: when she was five years old, she and her best friend had gone cycling around the village. A car hit her best friend, who was killed. Like most children she had been warned to be very careful. So, when the friend was killed, she felt so remorseful and guilty, that she could not go to her funeral, nor could she say goodbye or mourn.

Now, many years later, it was obvious that she was not to blame. Recognising this, she could lay her friend to rest the way she could not do at the time. We allowed this new knowledge to transform her past mind-set. When she had finished the process, her face expressed relief and amazement: the weight on her shoulders had disappeared.
As we walked back to the veranda, her movements where bouncy and her shoulders were straight. Never, she told me later, had she experienced such a profound transformation. It hadn't even taken an hour...